Tuesday, September 4, 2012

TMI: Cum, are you a fan?

TMI Tuesday: September 4, 2012
This week's TMI questions come from the wacky, inventive, and sexually creative mind of The Late Phoenix.

I can't say as I'm quite sure what he means by some of these questions, different mind and all, nor am I too keen on them.  But I'm playing along anyway to the best of my ability.  We appreciate you submitting questions,
good sir!

Cum, are you a fan?

1. We are all incurable sex addicts, but name one thing--a job, a passion, a creative outlet, a collection--of yours you use as a replacement, a distraction from constantly thinking about sex 24/7.
      I can't speak for others, but I am NOT an incurable sex addict.  At least not in the vein I think Phoenix means.  I haven't had intercourse or a partner for two full years.  I flirt with girlfriends in a non-threatening way.  I read the occasional trashy novel, and masturbate when I need to.  Possibly less than I should.  I have some sex toys and that can help me 'force' myself to orgasm.  Arousal and orgasm are both difficult for me, and you can read more about that here.
      But if we're talking outlets, probably sexting with my friend now out of state.  We did a LOT of that the first 6 months of this year.  He's the person I spoke of in my TMI Throwback earlier this August.  Thanks to him I got to experiment with spanking. which I apparently really enjoy.  We no longer sext out of respect for his new partner, but still have some pretty fabulous double entendre play when in the mood.  (word nerds, unite!)  We also exchange naughty jokes and joke pics.
      I've never had a very active, or very good, sex life.  So not knowing what I'm missing makes it easier to get through horny times.

2. Have you ever loved somebody so much that you worried having sex with them would actually sully the pristine purity of that love?
      Umm, sort of.  I had a good friend for many years who is no longer in my life.  I mentioned him in the Regrets TMI a few weeks ago.  I loved him deeply, and think I was half in love with him.  He helped me through some very difficult times.  I was perfectly willing to go to bed with him.  The emotional attachment was very strong.  I think the reason we never DID get together is that we were both so terrified that sex would ruin our friendship.  So we danced around it quite a bit and drove our mutual friends NUTS.  I wouldn't really call it a pristine or pure love, though.  We were both VERY aware of each other's faults.

3. If you could make love to yourself, would you?  Describe this experience in full detail.
      Not so much.  I'm not my type.  I'm flexible and open to experimentation with a woman, but again, my body type doesn't appeal to me.  I appreciate toned arms and legs on women, neither of which I have.  It might be interesting to experiment with certain touching.  I do know what I like in some ways, and it's more difficult to stroke certain parts of my body with feather light fingertips then others.  And getting into position can spoil the erotic bent.  But really, not so much.

4. Cum, are you a fan?  Explain and expound.
       I'm not entirely sure what is meant by the question as it can be taken a myriad of ways.  I am a fan of TMI Tuesday, and The Naughty Hangout (TNH).  Especially the latter.  I was introduced to both by Nolens Volens after a friend referred me to his first blog (Alienus-Kairos).  NV doesn't play TMI Tuesday anymore, but his TNH posts are always wonderful.  I stalk him regularly.  I have also recently become a fan of Jack and Jill's blog, but they are quite prolific.  I'm not able to look as regularly as I'd like, and am only starting to really explore there.  Their answers are always quite thorough.

5. Does it creep you out to know that God is watching you while fucking?


       Let me explain a bit about my religious upbringing and spirituality.  My father is a Lutheran minister (formerly ALC and now ELCA) and as the men in his family going back many generations, all the way to the old country.  One of my great-grandfathers and great uncles on my mother's side were also Lutheran ministers, again going back many generations to the old country.  Clergy, service, divinity, et al runs through my veins pretty strongly.  I have a pretty firm foundation in theology, doctrine, church history and other things.
      So, from a childhood upbringing, yes, God knows/sees everything.  And God created things and set it in motion.  BUT God also gave us free will, and by disobeying in the garden we brought upon ourselves the concept of original sin.  OK, so God knows we fuck.  Knows how we fuck.  And even if He doesn't approve, He doesn't interfere because He gave us free-will.  My question then becomes-- if He is in charge of everything, doesn't He have far more important things to do than watch me fuck???  And He doesn't control me, because I have free-will.  PLUS, even if I'm a sinner in an evil, demented, sexual way--since He's all-loving as well, I get forgiven.
      So for ME, this question is downright silly.  But I know that many people don't feel that way.  I have to say I'm kinda impressed that some of my past lovers didn't totally wig out at my dog always insisting on being in the room.
      Now, from a contemporary perspective-- if the Divine(s) want to watch, I'm really ok with that.  It's not as though I realize They are there.  But with all the things They can be doing and observing, I have a hard time believing that I am REALLY all that interesting.  I'm sure we can all be good entertainment/stress relief on occasion.  I mean, really, would YOU want to be God or Goddess????  If They miss it the first time around, everything is recorded for posterity in the Akashic records, so they can always watch it later.  But with everything else, I can always REQUEST that some things be private.  Divine beings are pretty good about respecting your privacy unless you're a danger to yourself or others.  And they have a LOT of things on their plate--
again with the whole the Divine has better/more important things to do.  I'm pretty certain They enjoy a good bout of fucking, cuddling, and love-making on occasion as well.  Human creativity is pretty much limitless, but you can't tell me that some sexual practices weren't other-wordly inspired one or two times.  ;) 
      So, no, the prospect doesn't creep me out.  I don't worry about my soul being in jeopardy because of my sexual activities, preferences, or fantasies.  Occasional porn and naughty books aren't sending me to hell.  If I REALLY feel the need for privacy from Divine and/or non-carnates, all I have to do is ask.  Frankly, I think the Divines don't WANT to know everything.  Who would?  It spoils surprises, and in some ways breaks hearts.  We can probably TMI them out if we try really hard.  LOL 
      I know some people do worry about this, though, and it makes me sad for them.

Bonus: Tell us something sexy that happened to you this week.

      Nothing really.  My new toys arrived and I've tried them out a little.  Not sure how I feel about them yet.  Can't get a lot of privacy at present.  And I'm starting to get one or two new messages via FetLife.  Men who are interested in letting me abuse them.  So I guess that's something.

Wow!  I put up quite a few things this week.  What can I say?  I'm a nerd and currently back in academia, I cite everything.  :D  Don't forget to check out TMI Tuesday to see who else is playing this week.  And feel free to join us!


  1. Nice answers, Princess! You write very well and I love reading it. I feel the complete honesty coming through your posts and I can’t wait to read more.

  2. lmao!! i loved the answer to #3, I think most of us feel the same way! i had somewhat the same answer as you did!
    Like yourself...is going to be almost 2 years since I last knocked boots...OMG, am i due for it!!

    Great answers Princess!

    Happy TMI

  3. My first visit to your blog - welcome to the blogging world! I love how you had a different take on "cum, are you a fan?" as you read it differently than a lot of us did. I love how surprises like that can happen.

    I'm off to explore your blog some more...

  4. Thank you very much ladies! Thank you for stopping by. I'm a very open book in many aspects of my life. Especially with my nearest and dearest (discounting my parents. There are some things they do NOT need to know. LOL)

    I'm glad to hear you enjoyed my blog. I also have another one that I need to get back to. Writing is a very good outlet for me and I feel better when I make time for it more often.


  5. as always, very educational

    i feel like the belle of the ball this week!

    peace :)

  6. Great answers, and not only because you mentioned us in your answer to #4. thanks for linking to our blog. We ARE pretty prolific - your guess as to why is correct, and your question will be the subject of its own Formspring Friday post at some point.

    Your answer to #5 was particularly awesome. I absolutely love your repeated rationalizations: God is too busy to watch you fuck. He gave us free will. He'll forgive you for your transgressions. All of this is totally consistent with what I know of God according to Christianity. In my opinion, while I am not religious, if God created the human body and human sexuality along with it, how can sex be wrong? It always strikes me as odd when I hear a self-proclaimed Christian have a negative attitude about sex. Glad you don't. :)

    Thanks for reminding us - we have a box of toys coming this week! Can't wait!


  7. Great answers, well thought out :)
    I enjoy the thought-provoking TMI brings :)

    ~Kazi xxx

  8. I don't know that I would call them rationalizations, Jack. A rationalization is something you tell yourself to excuse bad behavior. I think of those more as LOGICAL hypothesies. ;)