Monday, August 27, 2012

TMI-- Gettin' Off

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about gettin’ off. When you need it, you just gotta get it anyway you can.

1. Have you ever initiated a booty call?
kind of

2. Have you ever accepted a booty call?

yes.  to clarify numbers one and two, I shopped around for booty calls via internet a few times about 2 years ago.  I don't think of that as traditional booty call, though.  I didn't know the men before or after the interlude

3. Ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

Yes, I have.  It lasted about 2 1/2 months, it ended very badly.  I never want to see, or hear from, him again.  I have saved his email in my online account and all his phone numbers in my cell in case he ever tries to contact me.  That way I can screen should he ever try.  The sex wasn't that great, but for awhile it scratched an itch.

4. Tell us about your best one-night stand, what made it so good?

Well, it was more of 18 hours in a hotel than one night ;)  had to drive 2 hours to meet him at a hotel, and he the same.  That contributed to it being 'best'.  No mess to clean up, no worries about seeing people ever again, and I could be as loud as I wanted.  Easter weekend, 2009.  His body was absolutely divine, and all from hard work.  Not a minute in the gym.  He had the largest cock I'd ever experienced, or even SEEN, at that point and he knew how to use it.  He could hit my cervix, g-spot, everything!  And he always made sure I came.  Some of the best sex I've had.

5. When was your last one-night stand?

September 2010, Labor Day weekend.  Drunk, sloppy sex with a friend while his older brother slept next to us in the same bed.  Not my finest moment.

6. What’s the grimiest, dirtiest place that you’ve had sex?

N/A  if I know a place is filty, I don't get down.

What's the one random thing you wish your friends knew about you?
random, hmmmmmm, I have a very little understanding of how much I've accomplished and how far I've come.  I've always held myself to very high standards.  I just do what I do because I can/it needs to be done.  I truly don't see that I have a choice in many matters so I keep on.  Too many things are at stake in others' lives if I fall.  I need to be reminded that I'm stronger than I know.  That where I am took a great deal of courage and hard work.  I can see it for others of similar ilk, but not for myself.  I need them to remind me, to help me remember, and make me believe it sometimes.  I get stressed and overwhelmed, and still feel a LOT of fear.  More than I'd like.  I could use some help being brave.

And it would be REALLY FUCKING NICE if people answered the phone on occasion.  I call to chat and check in because I care about them.  Not to complain or ask for help.  (I'm really really bad at asking for help, which they all know).  Having someone ELSE make the initiating phone call, text, or email.... that would be a nice change.  To know I'm thought of on occasion.


  1. Great answers!
    I'm horrible about calling... I am so not a phone person :s

    ~Kazi xxx

  2. Kazi-- there's also this thing called email. ;)

  3. 18 hours, that's approaching Kama Sutra range...

    yeah, i feel ya, i am ALWAYS the initiator, ALWAYS, it gets tiring...

  4. Wasn't Karma Sutra, sadly. Eating and sleep were involved. ;) he got me going and didn't fully sate me, I wore him out. I've got a bit of succubus in me apparently. LOL

  5. Your answer to #3 is very interesting. Obviously I'm not going to pry into details about the relationship or why it ended so acrimoniously. No, I'm not intrigued by your saving of his number in your cell so that you won't be surprised should he ever call you again. I've done this; I remember being similarly surprised - sometimes pleasantly, sometimes not - when a forgotten or nearly-forgotten ex-partner called me on my house phone (I never had caller ID), and deliberately left the phone numbers of exes in my phone so that I'd know when they called and could choose whether to answer or let it go to voicemail.


  6. #3 wasn't an FWB so much as a WB. Met him via adultfriendfinder. He was smart and we had some things in common. I enjoyed his company at first, but he had some issues that started concerning me about spending time with him. He crossed a few lines one night in a MAJOR way. That was it.

  7. Loved the answers, specially #4!!!
    and we are stronger than what we seem :)
    I am glad you visited my blog, thanks for the comments! enjoying your blog!!

    Happy TMI!!!


  8. 4. Sounds very nice.

    Bonus: On a similar vain, I am bad a promoting myself or touting my accomplishments. I need to though, and it is my profession. Very good at promoting others but it is uncomfortable for me to toot my own horn.

    Have a great rest of the week,

  9. Oh, I have NO trouble touting myself in areas of confidence. But being ill for so long stripped my hubris and much of my confidence.